I am a communist. It’s the shunning that is deadly stuff. Example: Shame over HIV in a small community leads kinda fast to the forbidden, gay anal sex idea (run for your life) not unlike a photographic imprint wrapped around your head with a road map on your face. Just walking down the street can be a problem. Let us now pretend you are fifteen. The shunning begins. The first thing to go is the guy who used to be your ride to a clinic 200 miles away. Often, there are only 2 clinics per state in the poor IQ states. He says he cannot afford to be seen with you. Shunning will kill you faster than the disease. Stigma does not mean you are ready to stand tall in defiance of your community. You better have another community to move to (same old thing) because shunning can mean hunger, too. You quit school. You are kicked out of the house. The question is, now what. It’s an ancient way of killing someone. You do not see them because they are not there. Shame on you if you do see them. Perhaps you were gazing a second too long. Shame on you for feeling desire. Shame on you for acting on it. There is no reciprocity whatsoever. Shame on you for bringing remorse into the house. You will be punished. Contempt is deadly silence. What it reflects is disgrace. The breeding ground of humiliation. It occurs to you that they will kill you if they can. You are a dead kid walking. You never even got close to any clinic you might have sailed to on an empty ship.